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So apparently now there is yet another term to describe women who behave in a certain way: Before it was Cougar , meaning an older woman who dates younger men (implication: these women must be preying on younger men, because why would the guys be attracted them of their own accord?) . Now according to this article flagged by our reader Iolanda, as well as other articles , we have SWOFTY . This means a single woman over fifty.
And there s more: The term SWOFTY markets itself as a badge of honor for single women, but really it objectifies and classifies women in a three-for-one deal: according to their relationship status, gender, and age. It s the same old sexism, singlism, and ageism that has been going on in most cultures since forever, just re-labelled. Even the fact that we get surprised by the idea that single cheap vegas travel women over fifty can be vibrant and happy so surprised that we have to give them a name shows just how ingrained the stereotype of the drab spinster is. It s a stereotype we need to talk in full adult words about, not cutesy acronyms cheap vegas travel that keep reminding people how the existence of happy single older women is surprising.
And no, SWOFTY does not do anything to increase the dialogue about or dismantle the spinster stereotype at least not until single men over fifty are also deemed surprising enough to need an acronym. Until then, I say it just perpetuates the stereotype. Moreover, and worse, for a woman to earn the SWOFTY label, she usually has to be conventionally attractive. The actress/models Christie Brinkley cheap vegas travel and Susan Sarandon are presented in the media as stellar examples of SWOFTYs. So our three-for-one cheap vegas travel deal actually cheap vegas travel becomes a four-for-one: sexism, singlism, ageism, and looksism.
Doesn t it seem ridiculous to come up with acronyms for the kinds of people listed? Yes. So that s why, Copious Readers, cheap vegas travel I m asking you to come up with some cutesy, demeaning terms for the below statuses:
As a person who just recently qualified for this title, I can say that it was there all along. I am tall, slim and fit, with luxurious hair that happens to be greying. I love to cook and eat, and think my own thoughts. I am a multifaceted human being. And I am evidently not worth dating anymore. I haven t had a date in .. 6 years. So, what does this term mean at all? the mindset is already in place.
This is terrible! I thought cougar was bad, but at least that only purportedly described ( indicted ??) a certain type of dating-younger-men type of woman. SWOFTY is worse since it seems to cover us all. I am OVER 50 and I don t feel any different from when I was UNDER 50. Why a new category? What s the purpose? Just for stereotyping, which never moves in a good direction.
cheap vegas travel I m a single cheap vegas travel man over fifty and the label we seem to merit most these days is creep. Get called that frequently. It s terrible when I m with my 23-year-old daughter, who bears only a passing resemblance to me. She lives across from a wimmin s bookstore (sic) and when we leave her building, arm in arm, we get scowled at.
Oldish cheap vegas travel and youngish there was an email conversation in my family cheap vegas travel recently about a youngish woman called so by my step-mom who is 70. I finally asked How old is youngish? My brother a MAN! answered Depends 29 for a woman, cheap vegas travel 59 for a man. ARGH!!!!!
I certainly hope things have changed since 1998, when, as a single 39-year old I purchased a home in Philadelphia, but believe it or not, in every single legal document at my closing, I was referred to as my name, Spinster. I thought for a moment I d been transported back to the 1800 s!
How crazy this all is. How pitiful. This is 2013, the 21st century, and this kind of thinking still exists. A spinster was a woman who spun yarn for a living; it did not necessarily mean married or single
I have worked with more non-mothers than mothers. They may be married but love the freedom from a family (lets face it families are usually miserable cauldrons of dysfunctionalism, pain, and mental illness).
I did not marry until the age of 34 and loved my life before that. I traveled across the continent, lived with Inuit tribes in the Yukon, canoed that big river went wherever I wanted and lived to tell about it.
By the way a cougar refers to an ageless beauty an extremely attractive woman who looks years (sometimes decades) younger than her age. Lots of young men love this kind of woman and seek her out the cougars cheap vegas travel are being chased by youthful guys! In some situations, at least probably most from what I have read on websites. And these young men enjoy the worldliness and sophistication of an older women. I have read that young girls their age bore them are too hyper-sensitive cheap vegas travel too immature there is too much game playing.
No matter how emancipated we may think we are, the value of a woman in this culture is based on whether, first, she is capable and willing to breed; secondly, whether she is physically attractive; and finally, to what male she is affixed. Single, independent, childless and intelligent women have no value in our society.
cheap vegas travel We use "heteronormative" to mean the hegemonic perspective that normalizes coupled relationships. "Heteronormative" historically refers to a perspective that fails to recognize "alternative" gender and sexual identities. At Onely, we believe that heteronormativity also fails to recognize those of us who prefer living alone to coupling. (See also our About Onely page.)